Building Self Esteem In children

Building self esteemin children involves awakening you and them to life style. How you live your life creates your self esteem. Want to change your self esteem or that of your child? Change your life style.
Most people spend so much time lining up the shot, making sure it is perfect, worrying if they are not accurate they will miss the target--they spend so much time aiming they never actually get around to firing. What is your child so concerned about messing up that s/he is afraid to take action because of fear of failure? Or maybe fear of success?
Some people do not act because they figure when others see how competent they are they will be asked to do more and more will be expected of them all the time. Meeting the high expectations of others can be very stressful.
Do you know that airplanes fly off course more of the time than they do on course? The plane constantly adjusts systems to bring it back on course. I recall being on one flight where the wind was so strong I am certain we were flying on an angle forward (the door to the cockpit was open and I could see our direction) rather than directly forward much of the time and still we reached our destination.
The important thing is take action. Make adjusments afterward. All great work is constantly being revised and updated. Let your child know whatever s/he does is better than doing nothing.

My personal success motto

I now live by the motto, “If I think I can’t then I must.” Do you
think it would be powerful to live your life that way? I experience
that Little Voice yelling lots lately, trying so hard to keep me in
the box where I lived before. Well guess what. This is my life and it
is I who am in charge rather than that Little Voice. When I make what
that Little Voice wants to call scary choices I cancel its impact and
move forward anyway. I have found that the only way to beat that voice
is to jump into what seems scary and just do it. Period. When I am in
action nothing stops me. Indeed, when I am in action nothing scares
me. Being scared leads to wasting time, i.e., procrastination.

We See What We Expect To See

People create filters that act like colored lenses of glasses.We see the world through our unique colored lenses. If our glases are yellow then every day is a sunny day! If our lenses are gray then every day is a gray day! For the wearer of the yellow lenses there is no way anything looks gray . So whatever event happens it is viewed sunny OR it is not seen at all.
Wayne Dyer, PhD. wrote the book You'll See It When You Believe It. Most people live their lives backwards saying,"I will believe it when I see it." We co-create our reality.
We are responsible for what happens in our lives. We choose our interpretations of events. And our children do exactly as we do...or they do exatly the opposite of what we do to avoid winding up being like us.
When we live making conscious choices, when we take off those glasses and truly see life, then we recognize our power. As a role model for our children we have the awesome responsibility of making our lives great. Why would anyone consciously choose otherwise?

How We See Our World

I was 16 before I learned that not everyone walks around composing
music in their head most of the time. You know, how you experience the
world is how you assume everyone else experiences the world.

The thing is, we each wear a different set of blinders.
If my blinders limit my field of vision to events and experiences that
make me a victim then I can only see events and experiences that make
me a victim. Oh my gosh!

How can I become aware of my blinders and filters? I learn how my mind works and how my brain works so I can see how I create my blinders and filters.

What if I do not care how my mind or brain work? Well, I simply focus
on how I want my life to look. The bottomline is the "why" does not
matter. All that maters is how I live each moment. And how I live each
moment is my choice when I have awareness of how I can create my choice
consciously instead of automatically.

When I live on automatic and my life is not working as I want it to how
in the world can I expect anything to be different for me? Consider
that you and your child live on automatic.

What blinders does your child have? Is he a good boy? A no talent artist? Hyper? Very smart? What label does he have to live up to?

Self Esteem Happens

You live your life every day. How you live it determines how you view yourself. The same thing happens for your children. What they see, hear and observe in their world, especially what relates directly to them, paints a picture of how their world is.

You could say that picture is their reality. They grow up in their reality. Their view of who they are and how they are and who and what they can and cannot be is all defined in the reality they created growing up.

I never set out to raise kids with high self esteem. I never worked at building self esteem in children. I did all I knew to raise kids who knew how deeply they were and still are treasured just because they exist. All I want is for them to be happy and healthy.

The result is two adults with high self esteem who have all the traumas everyone else does in life. And they come through whatever happens and move forward with their lives no matter what is going on.